My ex wife always said one of my biggest problems was not being communicable but I don’t think she understood the struggle that went on in my head. Everytime she needed to say something to me that meant anything or essentially argue some point of the day I would literally just sit there she would think I was listening but in my head I was playing out every possible answer and what direction that answer would take this conversation and more often than not nothing would come out because I would either not come to a conclusion worth opening up my mouth a for or the “conversation” would go on for so long that she would simply give up the one sided talk or I would come up with some kind of rebuttal two hours to two days later and end up being wrong somehow thus training myself that I should just shut my mouth. And so the battle continues